Think back to your past relationships or your past hook-ups. Remember how you acted with this woman before you hooked up? Then, think about how you acted after you kissed for the first time. Sketchy? Think of it this way. Think about the last woman you kissed. Remember when you gave her a call the first time after you kissed? I bet the tone in both of your voices was different than it was before. Just that simple, "Hey how are you doing?" came out with a new undertone.

The point I'm trying to make is, whether you like it or not, things are different once you and a woman kiss. From that point on in the relationship you think about each other differently. The next time you see her, you have to kiss again, and chances are you probably want to.

So what's the problem? The problem is, kissing on the first date defeats the purpose of dating. When you go on a first date with a woman, the goal is to learn more about each other. You want to see if you really like her and vice versa. And particularly because it is the first date you're going to be trying your darndest to impress each other. In other words, you cannot really form an opinion about whether or not you like each other based on the first date. You need to go out at least once or twice more before you can start getting closer to the truth.

But now let's picture a situation in which you are on a first date. At the end of the date, you think you like her and she thinks she likes you. You lean in and before long the two of you are locking lips. BAM! It's over! You will never think about this woman in the same way. Then, the next time the two of you go on a date, you are going to start acting like you're girlfriend and boyfriend. If you don't hook up on the second date, then something is wrong because you already hooked up on the first date, so you have to. Before long, you're going to find yourself in a relationship where you cannot even be 100% positive that you like your significant other.

I've seen it a hundred times. People hook up on the first date, start dating and it always ends badly. The reason is, they discover things they don't like about the other person after it's too late. Look, I'm not preaching celibacy. If you really like the woman, go for it. But just have the patience to wait 2 or 3 dates, if it's meant to happen, it will happen then. But if you so much as kiss on the first date, the chances of it working out for real are zero-to-none. Do yourself a favor, and hang on for at least one more date. You could be saving yourself a lot of grief in the long-run.